Voice Dialogue
Voice Dialogue holds that we all have a personality,
which is composed of many parts, called sub-personalities.
Each part has its own unique assets and gifts. All of us have
countless parts, but there are typically a few parts that are
dominant in your life. If you become overly identified
with any one part of your personality, it can begin to
take over your life and cause you distress. When this
happens, other parts of you get ignored and life becomes
imbalanced, resulting in a broad spectrum of concerns,
including anxiety and depression, addictions, relationship
troubles, and health problems.
For example, at times you may be aware of a "perfectionist"
part of you that wants to do everything just right. Your
perfectionist may drive you to become obsessed with doing
things flawlessly, sabotaging your capacity to derive any
pleasure from your life. This is the part of you that wants
to get things perfect, usually with the hope of gaining
approval.
At other times, you may be aware of a "pusher."
This is the part of you that is not comfortable resting. The
pusher always wants to be busy and active and it is driven to
accomplish whatever is left undone. The pusher gets a lot done,
but at the cost of continual stress and anxiety around
unfinished projects. Pushers are very common in our culture
and they're at the root of many symptoms including backaches,
insomnia, fatigue, depression and anxiety.
You may also be aware of a "pleaser" part
that wants to make other people happy. The pleaser is typically
motivated by the fear of being abandoned or rejected. While the
pleaser is very helpful to others, it often leaves you feeling
emotionally drained and resentful that you are not getting your
needs met or that you are being taken advantage of by others.
Typically, when one part of you is over-functioning, there
will be an opposite side that under-functions. This imbalance
causes distress. For example, if you are strongly identified
with taking care of other people, the part of you that
takes care of yourself may get ignored. In result, you
can burn yourself out by helping others because you lack the
capacity to regenerate yourself.
Voice Dialogue, which is rooted in Jungian
psychology and Gestalt therapy,
is an experiential technique that is very effective for
expanding awareness of your inner parts, allowing you
to bring each part back into balance. As you get to know these
parts more deeply, your self-awareness expands,
creating greater clarity and allowing you to access the
gifts and talents of these parts.
One of the major benefits of this work is that as your
awareness expands, you will have the power to make
choices, as opposed to simply reacting to whichever
part is most dominant in your life at that time. Awareness
creates choice and choice creates empowerment, putting
you in charge of your life.
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